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July 31…really???

How is this possible? Could a month and a half passed since writing you? Crazy! Time flies! Whether you are having fun or not…gratefully, I am mostly having fun! I love summer. I do. I love it. Lack of schedule, lack of mandatory running around (mostly), swimming, the beach, sleeping in late, road trips, hanging out with your kids all the time, sleepovers. I know some parents are excited for the kids to go back to school, and I am too at times, but mostly, I just love this time together. I feel the changes happening, the shifts occurring, and soon my babies are going to move on, as they are supposed to do. I am not trying to be dramatic, but I AM trying to be present. This summer has not been our typical summer. My oldest has been away for 4 weeks this summer- three consecutively. We have been trying to sell our home, lots of cleaning up and lots of showings, as well as preparing to move into our new home. We picked our son up from the course he was taking at Emory University, and then proceeded to do our son’s college tour from there. It was so great having him back and having all of my people in the car with me. Lots of conversation, restaurants, different playlists from different kids, and lots of cool destinations. We have a better handle now on what we are looking for in re:to schools, and re: what won’t serve our son so well. It was a great trip, and we are glad to now be home.
My middle babe turned 15 yesterday. What is that about! It is crazy that this can be true. But it is. She is gorgeous inside and out and I am grateful she is my baby. We had about 15 of her friends over yesterday beginning at 4 to swim, have a cook out, they played giant yard Jenga, had a water balloon fight, made s’mores, and watched an outdoor movie while hanging out in the pool. It was a great evening. Her friends are just as nice as she is…and we are so grateful. They were so thoughtful in their gift giving, it was awesome to see her open up truly thoughtful presents. She is so thoughtful in her gift giving, and it was nice those sentiments returned. This was our first coed party too, mind you. But they truly enjoyed one another. Initially, it was awkward like a middle school dance – boys on one side, girls on the other, but then our pastor and his family arrived, to have their 5 year old little girl give Grace the gift she bought her. That little girl wrangled all those boys up and girls and had them all eating out of her hands at the same time! The boys were sweet to her and were high fiving her and letting her put flash tattoos all over them. By the end of the visit with our pastor and his family, all the boys and girls were swimming together, playing games together, having water balloon fights, etc. It was adoreable! It also really showed the true nature of all of these 15 & 16 year old kids. They were tender and sweet and not too cool to be nice to a couple of adorable little kids.
Mom is still mom. She is consistently loosing things, obsessing about them for a few weeks, and then finding them. She and dad are busy filling their days with movies, and the theatre, and lots of tacos from San Julians in Ft. Myers! We talk nearly daily and she is sweet and funny. My dad has been taking her for trips to get her nails done, her hair done, or a massage. It is making him happy to do this for her and it also buys him a little alone time I think. The other day they called me and she had just come back from getting her hair cut and colored along with a manicure. I asked her to tell me about it and she said she was really happy with everything but they did a terrible job on her toes. She said she was going to go back in tomorrow and have them redo them because they looked terrible. Meanwhile, in the background my dad says” they didn’t do your toes today…they did your hair and your fingernails.” She said…”Oooh, really? Hmm. Well, I am going to go back there and have them fix them up anyway, they look terrible.” Bless her heart. I am not sure where they are still re: the new house. If nothing else, we are providing an option for them. It doesn’t appear as though my dad is on the same page as us, still. We will see. I think this will change, but in the meantime, I will not say anything except that it will be there for them should they need it. We are creating an option.
My brother and I texted recently. That is unusual, but not entirely unpleasant. He let me know through text that he and his family have moved to New Hampshire. Hmm. They needed a change. Ok. He wrote to give me his new number. Near the end of our text exchange, he asked about my mom. Asked how she was. She would feel very betrayed if I were to give up her personal info to someone who she feels has abandoned her so I simply said that she was well, but that life is tougher these days, than in days past. He stated that he has written them countless letters, sent them photos, and his various addresses, but they never get in touch with him. He said he feels they are screening his calls to because he hasn’t been able to reach them.
If my parents knew how to use their phones or technology, I might see his point of view, but my parents went to Mexico in April, and my dad just 3 days ago figured out how to turn off airplane mode!!! Again…bless his heart! They are trying. For this I am grateful. All I could say to my sibling was, I am sorry that you all are in this place. I left it at that. I am done having this discussion. He is too obviously. He said that he is done reaching out to them. I hope his son looks at life with a little more love and humility, and doesn’t do to his parents what my sibling has done to my parents. My parents will never get over the heart ache, I don’t believe. Especially my mom. He was her everything. Having said that, Oh well, not my bed & I won’t be sleeping in it. I will love her through it though, and try not to say anything bad or negative about anyone either. I choose to Love them all right where they are.

Quite a nutshell right? I think this is all my norm. I do not think that things will ever settle, just shift. We shall see. Once again, I am grateful. God is good to me and the people I love and those around me. Please keep us in your prayers to sell this beautiful house so that we can move into the next one with a sense of peace and tranquility. We close on August 31 – a month from today. Hard to believe. Onward and upward!
Peace, Love and Light.

Cinco de Mayo!

Good morning friends! Has it really been a month since I have been on here! Yikes! Time flies. I guess I really needed some down time! Ha! Anyway, today is a quick post as I have been working in my husband’s office for the last 3 weeks. It is part time, and they were swamped. It is all good and has been a good change of pace. Funny how doing something out of your ordinary can really help you appreciate your ordinary! Right? Suddenly, I really miss yoga, making beautiful breakfasts, having time to plan various things out, make meals for my family. It also makes you better at planning your time. I know I need to do all of the above, I just don’t have all day, and some stuff, I haven’t fit in yet. All good. Speaking of beautiful and quick breakfasts, I had one of my faves. An avocado smash. Yum. Toast bread, some sort of spread – mine was a lemon mayo type spread, you smash 1/2 an avocado between 2 pieces of toast and lightly sprinkle some sort of salt. Mine was a veggie herb salt…Ugh, so delish!
Anyway. I digress.
Life has been good, kids are wrapping up school. Lots of homework, testing, papers, dioramas, reports, field trips, etc. We are also wrapping up sports. One more volleyball tournament and we are done for the season. It has been a LONG season! and EXPENSIVE! Dear Jesus. This was never an option for me growing up. My parents couldn’t commit to dropping me off and picking me up from a practice, much less spending every weekend away in a different city paying for hotels, food, parking and a sweatshirt from every event. Yikes!Times sure have changed. I am happy that she is having this experience, but I am quite aware of how different our upbringings are, and both are good, just different. Anyway. My youngest just went to Disney on a field trip with her entire 5th grade class. What a treat and luxury. Having grown up in Pennsylvania and Minnesota, that would have been unbelievably amazing! Here in Florida, it is another day! So cool that this a floridians reality. Anyway. It was the hottest day of the year so far…ugh. I am one of those really ugly sweaters… I don’t glisten or glow. I am like a 12 year old boy in PE class. Man, did I sweat! It was a blast though, and fun to experience with a bunch of 11 year old girls. How cool to be able to go to Disney with all your best buds! Grateful.
Mom and Dad update. They are currently in Mexico – Guadalajara. It was a calamity getting them there, maybe I’ll tell you about it later! They are there now though and having a blast. My mom is enjoying time with her niece who we call La Nena (the girl). That is in total how i know her. If I were to have to find my parents, the only info I have is that she is staying with “the girl”. Oh my! I’m sure the authorities could assist me in finding them with that information, right? Haha. Anyway. Mom is confused, but having a great time. I am glad for them. She has learned how to use WhatsApp, which is hysterical really. I am glad Nena has showed her how to use it, although, she keeps calling my husband thinking its me she is calling and leaving super weird random messages. She also called me thinking I was her cousin, and left a LONG rambling message to her. Oh my. Technology and dementia. Yikes! What a combination! Anyway. Chat more later, I am going to be late if I don’t pull myself together. The boss might not be happy! 😉
Chow for now!